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My husband solipsist and I have been exploring orgasm control and chastity play for some time now. Sol has been wearing the CB6000 (which you can also buy at S(A)X)  since it was very kindly gifted to us by friends last year. We’ve had enormous enjoyment out of this device. However because it’s plastic main cage has split five times under pressure … a problem encountered by many wearers of the device … we’ve reached the point where we only take the CB6000 out for specific play now and then. Which means we’ve been searching for a more long term chastity device.

We’ve had enough experience with chastity devices to understand that there is no one perfect chastity device out there that we can recommend to those of you who ask our advice in their search for “the perfect devise”. Everyone’s anatomy is different. And therefore everyone’s experiences of each device are going to be different. What’s comfortable for you may not be comfortable for us, and vice versa. So please keep this in mind when you read the following review.

We’d been very interested in the Birdlocked, the first silicone device on the market. However the price was horrifically high at the time, and good friends who’d purchased the device had had problems. It was at this point that we visited S(A)X’s leather workshop at Byron Bay, and discussed reviewing the just released BON4 - the second silicone device on the market.

You can read the full review on my blog here. It’s long and very detailed, but someone on Fetlife did call it “awesome”, which was nice. What’s important to cross post here I think, are the device’s technical details and then our conclusions.

Pretty, isn’t it?

You’ll find the BON4 website here. The BON4’s technical details are reproduced on S(A)X’s page about the product: “The Bon4 Male Chastity Device … is supplied with three ring sizes of flexible silicone that interlock with the comfortable silicone cage. The device is fully adjustable and will fit anyone. Simply choose the cock ring that fits the best and fit it around your penis and testicles. Then attach the cage and interlock them with the silicone belt. Add the padlock and lock things down!”

“Approx. 4.3 (111 mm) inches in total length; internal cage length approx. 2.5 (65 mm) inches in length; cage opening approx. 1.4 (35 mm) inches. Ring sizes are approx. 1.6 inches (41 mm), 1.9 inches (47 mm), and 2.1 inches (52 mm). The fully assembled weight is 90gms”

The manufacturer also makes the claim: “Because BON4 comes with 3 different sizes of cockrings. it will fit anybody”. This claim worried me right from the start … and I was right about that…

BON4 copy on left + Birdlocked on right
being sold by Birdlocked in June 2010
on the bon4-chastity site

We wanted to complete a two week period of wear before reviewing the BON4 for S(A)X. This review period was extended due to sol’s injuries and so I could document the underhand tactics of Birdlocked, who flooded the internet with fake BON4 distribution websites selling fake copies of the BON4 in mid June 2010, two months after the BON4’s release.

For this reason I sincerely recommend anyone wanting to buy the BON4 purchases it from a reputable distributor like S(A)X.

During our first week wearing the BON4 we found lots of positives. As a wearer, sol found it more comfortable than the CBs because of the soft silicone. It allowed him to sleep through the night. It fitted better under clothes. It was great for travel (both flying and driving). And there was no constant worry about the device splitting (like the CB6000). He did experience some problems peeing in the device, which we thought might be made worse by his PA piercing.

As an owner / keyholder I really liked the look of the device and the fact it’s soft to touch and yet cuts sensation. Most importantly, from a psychological point of view the device worked extremely well. While wearing it sol quickly achieved the submissive mindset I enjoy … which became even more pronounced when the device was removed for play. So the BON4 certainly works well as a chastity device.

However after a single week, sol had enough small - but I have to be honest here, extremely painful - injuries that they added up to significant discomfort and required the device’s removal for several days and finally, the termination of the two week trial. You’ll find photos in our original review.

We identified two reasons for these injuries.

• The first was poor fit. Sol falls between the ring sizes currently available with the device. For him one ring is too tight, the next sized ring too loose. Ironically while BON4 only produces three cock rings, Birdlocked has produced it’s fake BON with five differently sized rings … one of which would have fitted sol perfectly.

• The second reason was poor design, with severe pinching occurring where the device joins together. For more details see my full review.

Our trial has proved that the manufacturer’s claim that “because BON4 comes with 3 different sizes of cock rings it will fit anybody” is incorrect. If we had the option to discuss the design of this device with the BON4’s manufacturer, we’d suggest:

• having more ring sizes available, to widen fitting options. They can still sell the BON4 kit with three rings but at least advise purchasers that other sized rings are available if required

• altering the design of the BON4 cock rings so their edges are further rounded, to avoid rubbing / pressure injuries (Birdlocked got this detail right)

• slightly enlarging the center hole to help with the peeing problem, so that pee does not build up in the cage (which Birdlock avoids with the extra air holes

With regret we cannot suggest a solution for the severe pinching where the device joins together.

So, do we recommend this product?

As a short term chastity device, absolutely we recommend it. For all the positive reasons we’ve given above. I think it is especially good for men who have active lives and for men who travel. For example, it would be an ideal device to lock your partner in prior to a short business trip.

For longer wear, we simply can’t recommend it because we experienced too many injuries. It’s very important you make sure you fit the rings that are available before you purchase it - if you’ve worn a CB device you’ll have worn similarly sized rings. My original review discusses how to determine your ring size if you have not worn a different type of device that uses them. I do not recommend you buy the fake BON rings from Birdlocked, even if they have a size that fits you. Apart from the ethics of such a transaction I have no idea whether the rings are well made - they may have even sharper edges than the BON4’s.

I sincerely hope that very soon the makers of the BON4 will offer more rings. At which point sol and I will be able to purchase one that fits better and the BON4 will move from a short term chastity device to one that we can use for much longer periods. Although we’ll still need to keep an eye on that pinching where the two parts join.

I think the BON4 - and silicone as a base material - has potential. Silicone offers amazing opportunities as an alternative to metal and plastic devices. Yes, there are teething problems … but what new chastity device doesn’t experience them? And as all of us who are interested in male chastity know, what works for one person - or in this case, one reviewer - doesn’t for another. Everyone’s anatomy is different, and therefore their experiences of each device is different.

Sol says that the next generation of BON (meaning the BON4 manufacturer’s future version of the device, not the appalling ripoff by Birdlocked) will probably be the perfect male chastity device. And I agree. But believe me, you can still have a hell of a lot of short term chastity fun with the BON4.

SINCERE THANKS:

to Steve Sax of S(A)X for kindly thinking of us as reviewers for this product
servingb, and members of Fetlife male chastity groups, Chastity Mansion Forum and Chastity Lifestyle Forum

PHOTOS:
S(A)X Ms160 bon4-chastity site

My husband solipsist and I are down in Melbourne for OzKinkFest, which is the biggest kinky event of the year here in Oz. Over the next ten days we are going to attend several extraordinary events, including Hellfire Resurrection (you can see the poster above),  Fetish Expo next Sunday, and lots of workshops, many of which are free.

If you are interested in all things kink and are Melbourne based I encourage you to come along … of if further away, keep it in mind for next year. It’s a great event, a great way to catch up with old friends and meet new ones, a great time to see local and international kink performers (such as Lukas Zpira and Satomi) … and to learn new techniques via the workshops and skillshares.  Lukas Zpira and Satomi are giving workshops on a range of topics, well worth attending. I’m even presenting a workshop on strapon play on Monday 19 Oct … which will of course feature S(A)X’s excellent harnesses.

I’ll keep you informed of all the events

One category of S(A)X’s products I get a great deal of enjoyment from are the  various leather harnesses for strap on play. In fact I enjoy strapon sex so much I even present workshops on the subject, LOL!

According to Wiki (which has a great entry on strap-on sex) a strap-on is:

“a dildo designed to be worn (usually in a harness) by one partner and used to penetrate another partner vaginally, anally or orally, used by both heterosexual and homosexual couples.

“For a woman, a strap-on can be used to anally penetrate a man (pegging), for vaginal or anal lesbian intercourse, or for artificial fellatio.

“For a man, a strap-on can be worn for penetrative sex, and may be used in cases of erectile dysfunction, for double penetration, or to penetrate multiple partners. A wide variety of harnesses and dildos are available, with different ways of fitting the wearer, attaching the dildos, stimulating the wearer or the receiver, and all with different features, advantages, and drawbacks for both users”.

You’ll find an in depth article covering everything you wanted to know about strapon sex  on my BDSM for Beginner’s blog here.

I use two of S(A)X’s leather harnesses regularly. The first is the Diva, a soft black leather ring harness that is supplied with three rings (40, 45 & 50mm). It can fit both dildos with balls and without - when using dildos with balls the bottom snap is not used. When I wore it the very first time I was concerned about checking this point, wanting to make sure the dildo stayed secure during play if one snap was left open. I need not have worried.  The harness works perfectly, and we have had a lot of fun using it.  You can read my blog review of the Diva here.

The second harness I use is the Deluxe Vac-u-lok, which you can see illlustrated above.  Vac-u-lock is very popular harness system originally devised by Doc Johnson. I’m not surprised it’s popular, because it’s well designed and the use of vacuum provides a very secure connection between dildo and harness. Vac-u-lock dildos have a hole in the base that fits onto a matching plug on the harness or beach ball (yes you can buy one fitted to a beachball!) . And believe me, that dildo really won’t move. It rarely flops downwards or slips, like some ring harnesses. And it’s easy to change dildo during play.

S(A)X’s Deluxe Vac-u-lok harness is a very attractive beast - I had it in mind when I wrote in the BDSM For Beginners Strap-On Sex post that “there is nothing more sexy than a black leather strap-on harness”. Especially when you add a bright pink jelly dildo:

You can read my blog review of this product here, but here’s a little of what I wrote:

“Being a three strap style of harness (one strap around the wearer’s waist, and two leg straps, one around each thigh, rejoining the first strap near the front) the Deluxe is nice and sturdy, and also leaves the genital area accessible.  Being leather, it’s comfortable and durable. The straps are very soft. The front panel (with it’s orange Vac-u-plug in the center) is much firmer leather, and is decorated with shiny nickel plated steel studs, a decorative design component distinctive to many S(A)X products … In the case of the leather front panel, the snaps hold both the plastic orange Vac-u-plug attachment piece in place, and a black suede patch that covers the back of the plug. Everything can be taken a part for cleaning…

To sum up, I found “the Vac-u-lock system worked a treat, allowing me exquisitely slow entry into my husband. I was literally moving into him a fraction at a time, then withdrawing, but never quite coming out. This type of precise movement would have been impossible without the Vac-u-lock’s control, which also left my hands free to masturbate him, in movements that complemented those of the dildo”.

I recommend both these harnesses during my strapon sex workshops. They both compliment each other.  Having both these styles of harness in my toy box allows me access to a wide range of dildo styles and grants me the ability to use them with confidence.  That makes both products definitely worth acquiring!